Solomonic Decisions and the Sacred Feminine
17 Tuesday Jul 2012
Written by Nicole Rushin in Dreams, Personal Growth
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Do you believe that diseases are a result of emotional imbalances? If so, read on…
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I don’t normally write directly about my dreams on my blog, but I feel like these dreams are important.
I feel like they belong to the collective and not just to me so I thought I would share them.
To keep a long winded dream story short, I was told in a dream that Thyroid Disorders are a result of women not speaking up when their creative or private space is not being honored. We often don’t speak up because we feel guilty for ignoring the other person.
Whether that other person is a male or a female partner we don’t want to hurt their feelings so we say nothing, we hope they will get the message, but when they don’t we cave and give in. We dishonor ourselves.
There is something very sacred about this feminine space. Perhaps sacred enough to cause disease. (Thyroid Disorder is on the rise and seems to be more common in women than men.)
Today I came across this video. It is a short fourteen minute video about honoring the sacred feminine space and the masculine/feminine imbalance we are being faced with. Watch it when you get a chance.
I had another dream that clued me in to the pain I have been holding mainly in my left hip. I have been asking my dreams for help with this for a while now. In the dream there were two balanced discs held up by an axle in the middle. It was clear to me that it was a representation of the way our hips work.
I often have dreams that play out like stories. They don’t always feel like they are my dreams and this was on of them. Maybe I was pulling it from that collective feminine pool.
In this dream their was a lady who lived in a small apartment with her children. The apartment was broken into by three men. Two of the men left and one stayed behind to assault the lady. He threatened to kill or hurt the children if she did not go along with what he wanted. So instead of screaming she played friendly with him and went along with his sexual requests in order to protect her children. She did not want her children harmed so she diffused the situation by pretending to like the man. In the dream the man came back over and over again and she again pretended in order to protect her children.
We may not do this on such extreme levels in our lives, but have you ever been in a situation where you went along with the requests of others to keep the situation under control or even to protect others?
If you were in this situation what would you do? Write your own ending to this dream.
If this lady lived in another country she might eventually be deemed a whore and killed. Her children would grow up believing the stories. They would grow up with little respect for a woman who simply did what she had to do to protect her den. Would it have been better for her to go down kicking and screaming and risk the safety of her children? Where is the balance?
In the visual of the discs and axle I could feel the energy of protecting the children lived in my right hip (on the right side of the axle) and the energy of protecting the self lived in my left hip (the left axle). To make the dream even more surreal, as I was waking I could feel a tingling in my right hip as if it had been asleep. It felt as though forgiveness has been found allowing me the conviction to now honor my own space. Something had been cleared.
In our dreams (as well as our lives) we can be all people. I was playing the part of the children, witnessing in order to grant forgiveness to the mother. I was the mother finally able to speak that I was simply offering protection at the expense of my self. I was the man who brought the difficult lesson to this woman allowing her to finally heal.
She made A Solomonic Decision, but one that is still alive in society today manifesting as an imbalance.
I respect any woman who can move and work from her hips. Any woman who has found that balance. Any woman who speaks up when her space is not being honored. And most of all any man who understands the sanctity of that space.
I would love to get your feedback on this. Have you ever caved to the needs of another because you felt like you owed them something? Maybe you felt like you owed them your time and affection at the expense of your own?
Have you ever felt like you dishonored yourself in order to protect others? Kept your mouth shut to diffuse a situation?
These are not just issues of the feminine. They belong to the feminine/masculine imbalance we are experiencing today.
Leave me a comment below. I would love to get some conversations started on how to deal with these situations when they arise. Conversations centered around solutions.
How do we ask for that space to be honored?
If you are a mother what would you have done in the situation of the dream?
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13 comments
July 18, 2012 at 9:06 AM
Nicole,
I’ve been reading your blog for a few months now and enjoy your writings. This one sesonates with me, I forwarded it to the women I love. My daughters, wife, best friend.
Keep bringing it.
Robert Oblon
July 18, 2012 at 9:17 AM
Hi Robert,
I do remember you from the Outside the Lines newsletter. Thanks so much for commenting. It is nice to know you are out there reading. This was a little different from what I normally share on my blog so it is good to know you valued it. I am sure as an artist you understand the sacredness of the creative space. I also know that men experience the imbalance. Do you protect the Den or Yourself first? A hard choice.
Nicole~
July 18, 2012 at 9:07 AM
I just wanted to post and say what an interesting read this is…how one dream can hold so much….you bring up a lot of questions…a lot of questions that perhaps being honest with ourselves, we may not like the answers to.
It is fascinating what questions and answers our dreams hold….if only we have the courage to question them. To look inside them and ourselves for the answers.
July 18, 2012 at 9:12 AM
Hi Jasmin,
Even dreams that come in a flash can hold a lot of insight. But, yes it does take a willingness to look and be honest. Nobody is ever dishonest with another – we are only dishonest with ourselves. It is hard some days to really face our truths and the mirror. I know your dreams are currently holding some terrors for you but I believe they are only given to us to help.
N~
July 18, 2012 at 2:05 PM
Wow, such powerful imagery in this dream, Nicole. You already know how deeply this resonates with me. I need to watch this video. I am trying to find this balance.
July 18, 2012 at 11:05 PM
I think – overall it is that specific feeling that we get when that space is not honored and then when we have to cave to the wishes of others. Simply to appease. I don’t even have a word for the feeling. And as far as the hip issue. This dream was so visual! And I love Lisa King’s comment about it.
N~
July 18, 2012 at 5:57 PM
All day I have been carrying this dream choice in me.
I am asked: What does it teach the defended babies for the mother to sacrifice herself in this way? For her to step out of her truth and acquiesce to the conditions imposed on her.
What if there is another answer? What if it were possible to stop letting aggression frame the demand and its acceptable responses?
What if the mother were able to remain in a sacred space in herself, to act from her own heart? To act, not in fear or in anger or desperation, but in love. Not as a reaction to violence, but as a blossoming of her own powers?
This is where your dream has taken me. I thank you.
July 18, 2012 at 11:13 PM
Yes! A third way! A way of love. So I would have to write another ending to the dream.
Maybe she became unmovable in her faith and conviction and the third man saw his potential in her eyes. A potential that scared him. So he turned around and left the room after the other two men left and he never returned. I like this ending much better. One of faith that balances everything.
Exactly what he spoke about in the video. A belief beyond anything – without any doubt.
An ending that says she believed without a doubt that the man would turn and walk out of the room.
N~
July 19, 2012 at 10:15 AM
That sends shivers all down me!
July 19, 2012 at 1:13 PM
Dreams are so important. The subconscious is a deep, deep sea and investigate it through dreams or art or otherwise is for the better of us as individuals and as a society.
July 20, 2012 at 8:27 AM
First my own ending to this dream – I ask myself did she really have a choice in this dream – she either told the truth and got angry at him and he would probably turn violent and the kids would be at risk or go along. I don’t think she was in a place of living in her truth due to control/manipulation and finally survival. She came from a place of resistance and what we resist persists – Living in that beautiful space of TRUTH and for that very moment that was her truth = to protect and honor her children.
Of course I have been there where I had to keep my mouth shut for the sake of hurting others – living out of balance to myself – By speaking in “I” statements we allow our spaces to be honored – I feel, I think, I ask of you,… and the list goes on.
You did get me to think on this one my friend,
Living in the truth – my truth is coming out this weekend via a post
Nancy
July 20, 2012 at 3:12 PM
I think living in our truths takes many lifetimes to achieve. This could have easily have been a past life dream.
I have reading a lot about soul retrieval through dreamwork and this may have been a place where I left a piece of myself behind. I definitely feel like this dream was cathartic in many ways. And you are right she may not have been living in her truest truth but she was living the truth she knew at that moment and time.
N~
July 20, 2012 at 11:27 AM
the message I got from this is that everything is an illusion of our ego,… no-one wants to harm etc us, it`s just the way we personally interpret the actions of others according to our “stuff”…….beautiful inspiring post by the way!