Happiness first – then success…
Sometimes the best we can do is to borrow inspiration from another place. What’s wrong with that if it gets your hands to the dirt, your fingers to the keyboard or the brush back to the canvas? After all, it’s the space between the brush and the paint where we create happiness. It is found in the cadence of a written piece – not in the grammar. When our heads are down and our hands are busy – this is the space where we find real happiness.

Example of 'A Borrowed View' a Landscape Design Theme. Pic from https://picasaweb.google.com/abigailpick/VillasAndVenice#
The title, ‘A Borrowed View,’ is a landscape design theme. The first paragraph came to me in a half dream, but the long walk from the bed to the keyboard; I get to own that. I get to own the self discipline of writing, of doing the work, of listening to the nudges that wake me at 1:00 AM. There is nothing borrowed in the very, very long walk to the place of just showing up.
There is a strange contentment in dreaming about life – a strange comfort in the excuses we make to not attend our days and to not participate in the things that bring us the most joy. Call it a bridge placed precariously over the waters of our fears; a lulling bridge over the singing waters of ‘I can’t’ or ‘I don’t have time’ or ‘I don’t have the money’. On the other side lies your vision of success and happiness.
Happiness is best understood in recollection and is merely an urging that follows like a butterfly in the corner of your eye. We don’t create happiness by dreaming, but by engaging with life, with people and with activities we know have brought us joy in the past. What are the activities that put you in your bliss? We create happiness when we are focused on the task at hand and not on ourselves.
If you want to be a writer, read, and finally write. If you want to be a musician, listen, and finally play. A painter will come to know color and finally paint. A gardener will borrow a view, and kneel down to sow. The inspiration may be borrowed but the walk is yours.
Find your satori space, find the place where your potential can roam free, find the things you get lost in and make the long journey. When your fingers finally pluck the strings of tenacity – it is sweet. It is the music of ‘from here to there’ that will eventually fill the room. A borrowed view may be all we have, but is sometimes all we need to get there.
Become the Person You Need to Become,




64 comments
March 28, 2011 at 4:49 PM
Hey Nicole,
I agree for me there is nothing that brings me more joy, then to be doing exactly what it is that I love to do.. I always encourage people to find away to express themselves, because within that they will locate more self & bake in happiness.. which only then brings more back to them of who they are being now.
I love your writings.. and the picture you picked for this post is completely awesome….
Thanks again
March 28, 2011 at 5:02 PM
Thanks Lenai, amazingly, I looked up pictures for ‘A Borrowed View Landscape Design’ and not much came up. But this one was pretty good. We have a garden we are working on in the back sitting area at our Punch Advertising office and we use an arbor looking out at an old building, which was used more currently as a candle shop. Anyway, a good example of a borrowed view. Anything to inspire us as artists. A Borrowed View in Landscaping is usually a view of something that is really inspiring, like a building peeking up over the trees or the view of a mountain. Thanks for your comments and keep doing what you love to do.
March 28, 2011 at 6:27 PM
I love your writing Nicole.
I can relate to almost each of the little steps you are describing so beautifully. Like the walk from you bed to the keyboard, the ideas that pops to your mind at 1am and your intuition guiding you to take action NOW on those ones because in the morning you will not remember anything…
I have those every now and then, I love my bed and battling if to go out to write or to stay under the warm sheets…when it is very strong I do get up…so far it happened 3-4 times a year.
This is for me the punch line of this wonderful post:
to the best of my ability.
“We don’t create happiness by dreaming, but by engaging with life, with people and with activities we know have brought us joy in the past.” and you convey it here in such an elegant and unique way, a piece of art, that I just feel to share this with the whole world. And I will
Will visit again soon.
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March 29, 2011 at 3:19 PM
For some reason your comment went into my spam folder, but I found it and wrangled it back to safety. It must be from all the links at the end. Thanks for the wonderful comments. Let your marketing be artful, let your art be your marketing and live your message.
March 28, 2011 at 7:49 PM
Hey Nicole~
I love the space between things… they are the part that creates its meaning.
Without it, there would just be one big blob of stuff.
Thanks for sharing with us.
Make it a great day!
God Bless,
The GREAT Edward!
March 29, 2011 at 1:25 AM
Exactly. The space between the notes and the inflection. There is more space than there is matter.
March 29, 2011 at 12:24 AM
That was Beautiful Nicole. Made me think I need to stop thinking and get moving on a lot of things that are piling up.
Love always
Julie Elliott
March 29, 2011 at 1:26 AM
Don’t worry about the piles. What would happen if you just left the piles for a week or so. Well, actually, I guess you have! You guys have been out of town traveling. Okay, so now I see where you are at. In back home from vacation mode!
March 29, 2011 at 3:05 AM
Beautiful work, Nicole! Glorious cadence with the unspoken point, “Why Not?”
March 29, 2011 at 3:11 PM
Thank-you my friend! Can’t wait til the writers group on Wed night. Seems I am the only one who remembered the date, buy hey, they is okay.
Can’t wait to hear about your classes.
March 29, 2011 at 4:03 PM
Nicole,
Becoming the person you were meant to be resonates so well with me. It is about the people and the activities we share, not all the”stuff” that bogs us down. Dreaming does not fulfill that space, but acting on it does. I like your explanation of the space in between. Makes perfect sense,
Val
March 30, 2011 at 1:53 PM
Thanks Val. We can’t hesitate when we have promptings or the things just dissolve into our dreams. I know you are one of them who makes the long journey everyday.
March 30, 2011 at 12:54 AM
Wonderful post my friend and so very true – find your space and go with it. It’s good to borrow inspiration at times but you are so right that the walk is ours.
Makes you think…
Thank you my friend,
Nancy
March 30, 2011 at 1:54 PM
The walk is what we get to own in the end. ‘I did that!’ So true and ‘Look how far we have come!’ What a great feeling.
March 31, 2011 at 2:31 AM
I believe that this is more then dreaming! It is about creating a better future with your thoughts. First you create a better life in the future, and then you can create it in reality.
April 1, 2011 at 2:23 AM
Creating a better future for your thoughts. That is an interesting way to put it. Thoughts are merely potential energy. Create your future in your thoughts and then work toward making it real.
March 31, 2011 at 8:32 PM
I don’t think I’ve read your blog for a while Nicole. Some lovely writing! Listen, watch, study your art and eventually you become an expert because of it. For me, eliminating my thoughts so I can be 100% fully in the moment is the key. When I’m working, I’m working… when I’m with family, I’m with family and not thinking about my work.
Thank you,
Gavin
April 1, 2011 at 2:25 AM
It is hard to be present with all things but I am learning to be more present with people and with my work. Focused energy is so hard to create when so many things distract us. Thank you for the compliments and thanks for stopping by my blog Gavin, I admire your tenacity and your work ethic. Hope you are loving every minute of the new baby.
April 1, 2011 at 3:23 AM
Wonderful post. You are a gifted writer and inspire with your words. I get great ideas often to write articles on, but I forget them because I don’t write it down or actually sit down and write. I always think I will do it later, because I am busy at the moment.
I guess I need to get more purposeful.
Thanks again for the beautiful inspiration!
Your friend,
Lynn
April 1, 2011 at 12:51 PM
I guess it depends on what you feel more purposed to do. Write or work with clients or something else? Focus is hard to come by – but maybe that should be switched around to say focusing is easy. Thanks for stopping by Lynn! I appreciate you.
April 1, 2011 at 2:02 PM
Very interesting concept to writing in your niche, I do find myself dreaming about what I am going to do or write. I also end up at 1:00 A.M. working on my blog or writing for it…
Thanks for write such an insightful article. It was very thought provoking
April 1, 2011 at 3:27 PM
Thanks for your comments, Ross. Hopefully you are more inclined to take action rather than just dreaming.
April 2, 2011 at 8:11 AM
I am in the U.K. and there was a hit song here once that featured a line “Happiness is different things to different people.
Sometimes we have to just sit down and dream what happiness is for us. So many people spend a lot of time doing things, like work, that they are not happy with.
Only a select few actually live their dream.
April 2, 2011 at 12:56 PM
I guess it starts by defining it, Trevor. It is never about the money, or the house or the car. It is always about the path towards those little things. If we have not enjoyed getting there they won’t stick. Thanks so much for stopping by my blog and commenting.
April 2, 2011 at 11:56 AM
I must confess that I have to actively fight that ‘strange contentment’ you speak about. It’s so much easier to just dream about my dreams than to actively pursue them. I think it’s the idea of failure that scares so much of us: when we dream we always win, but when we actually do, then we risk losing. I think though, that the only real loss is not doing. As you said, real happiness comes in engaging with life. We have to show up to reap the rewards.
April 2, 2011 at 12:55 PM
You are right, we do risk losing or failure when we take action. To drift away into a dream of contentment on a lazy afternoon is so relaxing, but when you move the dream from the haze of your head, to the pen, to paper and then start making plans and walking towards them. Oh well, I can only say that magic starts to happen. The dreamers who walk and engage are the brave ones.
April 2, 2011 at 12:16 PM
Hi Nicole,
Your mentioned in there hold a lot of truth from my experience in finding the happiness I want in life. Honestly, I will agree with you that happiness comes first before success.
This is such a lovely post and I read it from my heart
When we understand our inner selves, there is where we can find happiness.
Appreciate this article and I want to truly thank you for writing it from your heart. Here, I say ” thank you very much ” Nicole
Cheers
Pearly
Pearly
April 2, 2011 at 12:51 PM
Thank-you Pearly, and I say that from my heart. I love reading heartfelt comments. They make the long journey worth it.
April 3, 2011 at 12:48 AM
Nicole,
How many of us fail to make the walk or even glance at the canvas, the dirt, the pen and paper? A life fully lived is a life of contribution on any level. We all yearn to make a difference and we ply our trade when and where we can hoping that the ripple of our spirit touches a few.
RICK
April 4, 2011 at 12:02 PM
Deep down we just don’t wan to feel alone. We want to know that we matter, so a life of contributions is definitely important. I enjoyed your post about writers block. It sounds more like which idea do I pick block.
April 3, 2011 at 9:10 PM
Hi Nicole,
You are such an artist with words. Lovely, as always.
I, too, related to your long walk from your bed to your keyboard and owning the words that came forth. It feels like such a gift to wake up with an idea that takes shape as our minds take hold of it and mold it into something meaningful. Even if it’s not an epiphany, if the idea is something from within us that begins to flow, it’s priceless.
I enjoyed your post greatly, as always.
April 4, 2011 at 12:04 PM
Thank-you so much for the compliments, Deb. Being known as an artist of words is my dream so I appreciate it very much. Here’s to always being in the flow.
April 4, 2011 at 7:55 AM
Hi Nicole,
beautiful article and picture.
I love the way you say “if you want to be a writer, read, and finally write.” Your must have done a lot of reading!
I write a letter to my Inner Being every morning and I am amazed what develops in that.
May even share some of it sometime.
Love and Joy
Yorinda
April 4, 2011 at 12:06 PM
That is an interesting way to start your day. I can imagine that it brings up many things and shapes your day in a magical way. Keep up the great work, Yorinda.
April 6, 2011 at 9:19 AM
Hi there Nicole….
You are a very creative blogger…love it.
Mans search for happiness takes us in so many different directions but the common fact of it all is your observation that it doesn’t happen unless we take action.
So many people wish and dream their lives away…only to discover that nothing changes unless we make a move in the direction of our dreams.
I also relate to your comment about writing…we have a need to take in information, disseminate it and then create our own words to describe our experience.
To continue to share our experiences with others, releases us whilst also helping others to progress someway in their lives.
You have got me all philosphical!! LOL
Thanks for sharing
Peter
April 6, 2011 at 5:03 PM
Thanks, Peter, for being philosophical. I enjoy the well thought out comments and enjoy knowing I got somebody thinking. Hope your day is full of happiness.
April 16, 2011 at 7:21 AM
Hi Nicole,
Wonderfully written piece. One thing stands out for me, and that is focusing on the task at hand without thinking of yourself. For me forgetting my personal ambitions and goals while I engage in activities gives me a whole lot more happiness!
May 30, 2011 at 4:09 PM
Hi Nicole – lovely article! It’s funny the images we manage to invent of ourselves … as long as I can remember I’ve written – for myself, for my employers, for charities where I volunteered – and at the same time I kept telling people one day I wanted to be a writer. A few years ago I was a the Maui Writer’s Conference and made that remark to author Sam Horn, who I’d known by that time for several years. Sam took me by the shoulders, looked me in the eyes and said, “Marty! Everyone sees you already as a writer – except YOU!”
May 30, 2011 at 4:17 PM
That is so funny! Even though it was probably shocking for you to hear at the time. About a year ago I was doing personal branding consults and a friend of mine said, “Well, why doesn’t your blog header say you are a writer?” It scared me at first, but I just went with it. Now, I really do see myself as a writer, but my blog theme is once again in the midst of changing to be more focused on my readers and my market. I need to turn it around and make it about them (or you). Yes, we all need to brand ourselves and define ourselves the best we can, but in the end; we give it over to our readers. We all need those wake up calls. Good thing you had Sam.
June 1, 2011 at 3:06 PM
Great post, Nicole! You have a very distinctive writing style, and I enjoy reading through your words to see where things are going next. You have done a great job in pointing out the sources of inspiration, and the amazing things that happen when we are open to it.
June 1, 2011 at 3:16 PM
Thanks Steve. Inspiration is everywhere and all life is simply an extension of the creative process.
July 14, 2011 at 8:20 AM
Love your article Nicole – love the bit about 1am..its so often the time that your best ideas come to you..and you JUST have to get up and get them down…I have so much more I want to say..but your article just resonated so much with me Im a bit speechless !!
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July 14, 2011 at 12:27 PM
Ideas come sometimes, but forcing ourselves to take action and move or just get ourselves out of bed to write the idea down does not always happen. Stephen King said once that he never writes ideas down. I find that to be so odd. He said if the idea is good it won’t leave him. I guess everybody has a different process. But I can’t abide by that one. I have to get them down on paper. Glad you enjoyed the post.
August 29, 2011 at 1:54 PM
“Become the person you need to become” – I love this. I totally agree with you, you only live once, so why not live life to the fullest. I am also a firm believer that every person is born to be something/someone someday. And that he/she need to figure out himself/herself.
August 30, 2011 at 1:50 PM
It is true, Jasmine, that we all have a truth to live out. We all have an excellent path hiding somewhere. Uncovering it is part of the journey.
September 14, 2011 at 2:19 PM
But for me, success first before happiness.. I will reach my dream first before I follow my heart.. This is my advice from my friend..
September 14, 2011 at 6:36 PM
All opinions are valid, Cynthia. But I wonder who the friend is you speak of and I wonder how you will know your dream without following your heart.
September 17, 2011 at 5:45 AM
To make it simpler, happiness goes hand in hand with success. Happy people are positive people. They always make a lemonade out of a lemon. They don’t stuck with biting a sour lemon, they do something to make it sweet.
September 17, 2011 at 5:00 PM
They do go hand in hand. If an unhappy person reaches what someone might view as success they will probably not be happy with it. So it begs the question of what is success. Thanks for stopping by and commenting. I appreciate you insight.
October 5, 2011 at 12:07 PM
Lovely article! It’s funny images we manage to invent of ourselves as long as I can remember I’ve written for myself, for my employers, for charities where I volunteered and at the same time I kept telling people one day I wanted to be a writer.
October 5, 2011 at 3:25 PM
It sounds like you are already are a writer, but maybe one day you can write totally for yourself and for your own growth an self discovery.
October 13, 2011 at 2:48 AM
I have so much more I want to say..but your article just resonated so much with me Im a bit speechless !!
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October 14, 2011 at 8:46 PM
I relate to your comment about writing…we have a need to take in information, disseminate it and then create our own words to describe our experience.honestly i really enjoy reading it.keep posting.
October 23, 2011 at 10:00 PM
Happiness is best understood in recollection and is merely an urging that follows like a butterfly in the corner of your eye. We don’t create happiness by dreaming, but by engaging with life, with people and with activities we know have brought us joy in the past which is absolutely true Happiness do earned. Thanks for sharing this.
October 24, 2011 at 4:42 AM
To make it simpler, happiness goes hand in hand with success. Happy people are positive people. They always make a lemonade out of a lemon. |
October 29, 2011 at 9:43 AM
Great! I love the way you say “if you want to be a writer, read, and finally write.” Your must have done a lot of reading!
I write a letter to my Inner Being every morning and I am amazed what develops in that.
November 3, 2011 at 4:02 PM
Wonderful post my friend and so very true – find your space and go with it. It’s good to borrow inspiration at times but you are so right that the walk is ours.
November 4, 2011 at 6:09 PM
Anything to inspire us as artists. A Borrowed View in Landscaping is usually a view of something that is really inspiring, like a building peeking up over the trees or the view of a mountain. Thanks for your comments and keep doing what you love to do.
November 4, 2011 at 6:25 PM
Yes, or even a church steeple or an interesting building. I always loved that concept when I was taking landscape design classes. Now it translates to other things. Like being inspired by other writers or artists.
November 12, 2011 at 8:57 AM
I believe that this is more then dreaming! It is about creating a better future with your thoughts. First you create a better life in the future, and then you can create it in reality.
November 20, 2011 at 7:21 AM
I think though, that the only real loss is not doing. As you said, real happiness comes in engaging with life. We have to show up to reap the rewards.
November 21, 2011 at 1:01 PM
Just showing up is most of the work. I think many people, and I was guilty of this for a long time, never get out of prepare mode. They think they are at the party, but really they never get out of the mirror, they never fully bring their goods to the table. It is a hard predicament to see when you are in the midst of it.
December 27, 2011 at 7:11 AM
I like your article and it make me warm and relaxed. A temporary and fictional relaxation is good for us to comfort our hearts. And the last goal is making a real progress and success in our lives and jobs.
December 30, 2011 at 10:26 AM
Hi Sophia,
Thanks for taking the time to comment.
Happiness first then success. Even sandcastles built in only hope soon drift away. I suppose happiness is the best foundation for any dream.
The Best to You in the New Year,
Nicole~